Comments on: How to Know When a Man is Interested http://www.successfulonlinedating.com/2008/05/how-to-know-when-a-man-is-interested/ Wed, 23 Jun 2010 12:11:37 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: dazzled http://www.successfulonlinedating.com/2008/05/how-to-know-when-a-man-is-interested/comment-page-1/#comment-2799 dazzled Thu, 04 Mar 2010 22:31:18 +0000 http://www.successfulonlinedating.com/2008/05/19/how-to-know-when-a-man-is-interested/#comment-2799 Hi Anastasia, do you mean the 2nd of March? That's 2 days, and you indicated that he doesn't respond immediately. So it sounds like this is within his range. If you meant February, then I'd write him off. One thing you said raised a red flag to me, though, about how he said other females "act strange around him." That is not a typical comment a guy will make. If you continue to communicate with him, try to expand on that and see what he means. You're already confused by him, and I have this very strong feeling you need to proceed with caution. I recommend you read the book Red Flags: How to Know When You're Dating a Loser. It will help you gain some insight on him...maybe he's just a geeky, shy guy, but then again, maybe you should move on. Good luck...let us know what happens :) Hi Anastasia, do you mean the 2nd of March? That’s 2 days, and you indicated that he doesn’t respond immediately. So it sounds like this is within his range. If you meant February, then I’d write him off.

One thing you said raised a red flag to me, though, about how he said other females “act strange around him.” That is not a typical comment a guy will make. If you continue to communicate with him, try to expand on that and see what he means. You’re already confused by him, and I have this very strong feeling you need to proceed with caution. I recommend you read the book Red Flags: How to Know When You’re Dating a Loser. It will help you gain some insight on him…maybe he’s just a geeky, shy guy, but then again, maybe you should move on.

Good luck…let us know what happens :)

]]> By: anastasia saenz http://www.successfulonlinedating.com/2008/05/how-to-know-when-a-man-is-interested/comment-page-1/#comment-2798 anastasia saenz Thu, 04 Mar 2010 22:13:08 +0000 http://www.successfulonlinedating.com/2008/05/19/how-to-know-when-a-man-is-interested/#comment-2798 Hello from the Lone Star State. There's this guy I befriended from another place in Texas - a small town north of here, and I told him about myself (interests, a memory growing up, my TOP fear, my birthday, my name - of course, my account on the site). He replied to me 2 days later, telling me his interests, his interest in talking to me, how he was used to certain girls, like me (a city girl), how all his other female friends had a 'somebody', how the other females acted 'strange around him' and all. I saw that he's currently employed, he went to college for engineering and drafting. From then on, he and I e-mailed each other, ranging from 24 hours to a few days within. The last time I sent him an e-mail was on the 2nd of this month and I haven't gotten a reply from him. I don't know what to think or feel about him, anymore. His e-mails indicate his interest in me, his responses to my messages - nothing much about him, however. I'd really like some enlighment from you at your convenience. Thank you Hello from the Lone Star State.
There’s this guy I befriended from another place in Texas – a small town north of here, and I told him about myself (interests, a memory growing up, my TOP fear, my birthday, my name – of course, my account on the site). He replied to me 2 days later, telling me his interests, his interest in talking to me, how he was used to certain girls, like me (a city girl), how all his other female friends had a ’somebody’, how the other females acted ’strange around him’ and all. I saw that he’s currently employed, he went to college for engineering and drafting. From then on, he and I e-mailed each other, ranging from 24 hours to a few days within. The last time I sent him an e-mail was on the 2nd of this month and I haven’t gotten a reply from him. I don’t know what to think or feel about him, anymore. His e-mails indicate his interest in me, his responses to my messages – nothing much about him, however.
I’d really like some enlighment from you at your convenience.
Thank you

]]> By: mertley http://www.successfulonlinedating.com/2008/05/how-to-know-when-a-man-is-interested/comment-page-1/#comment-2748 mertley Wed, 24 Feb 2010 22:19:09 +0000 http://www.successfulonlinedating.com/2008/05/19/how-to-know-when-a-man-is-interested/#comment-2748 Awww! thank you, you are absolutely right! I should take a stance! PS: funnily enough he txted me this afternoon, apologising and asking for another date. x Awww! thank you, you are absolutely right! I should take a stance!

PS: funnily enough he txted me this afternoon, apologising and asking for another date. x

]]> By: Kay http://www.successfulonlinedating.com/2008/05/how-to-know-when-a-man-is-interested/comment-page-1/#comment-2734 Kay Wed, 24 Feb 2010 15:59:01 +0000 http://www.successfulonlinedating.com/2008/05/19/how-to-know-when-a-man-is-interested/#comment-2734 Hi Mertley, I love long posts like this, so don't apologize! Back in the day I would have been as confused as you are, and probably trying to figure out how to work this out. But now that I'm older, more experienced, and can take an objective step back, situations are much more clear to me. Forget about this guy. He doesn't know what he wants, except maybe the possibility of sex when he hasn't had a long day at the office. It sounds like he's attracted to you, but not enough to make a real effort at a relationship. I highly recommend you read the book He's Just Not That Into You and take it to heart. Put yourself on a pedestal, and make guys work for you, Mertley. You sound like a really nice young woman, and you deserve a guy who truly wants you and will make the effort to pursue you. There's a guy out there who will meet you, fall madly in love with you, and do everything he can to win your heart! Best of luck to you! Hi Mertley, I love long posts like this, so don’t apologize!

Back in the day I would have been as confused as you are, and probably trying to figure out how to work this out. But now that I’m older, more experienced, and can take an objective step back, situations are much more clear to me. Forget about this guy. He doesn’t know what he wants, except maybe the possibility of sex when he hasn’t had a long day at the office. It sounds like he’s attracted to you, but not enough to make a real effort at a relationship. I highly recommend you read the book He’s Just Not That Into You and take it to heart.

Put yourself on a pedestal, and make guys work for you, Mertley. You sound like a really nice young woman, and you deserve a guy who truly wants you and will make the effort to pursue you. There’s a guy out there who will meet you, fall madly in love with you, and do everything he can to win your heart! Best of luck to you!

]]> By: mertley http://www.successfulonlinedating.com/2008/05/how-to-know-when-a-man-is-interested/comment-page-1/#comment-2732 mertley Wed, 24 Feb 2010 08:28:08 +0000 http://www.successfulonlinedating.com/2008/05/19/how-to-know-when-a-man-is-interested/#comment-2732 I met this guy on a dating website end of January (he initiated contact) and he was really keen. He asked to meet up and when I agreed, he didn't get back to me, so I asked if he was still interested and he said he was still very keen and suggested a night. I mailed him my number and he contacted me a few days later. We had a few convo by txt (and there were some flirting on both sides) although he was and still is a sporadic txter and he takes absolute ages to reply and sometimes a day will go by before he replies. We agreed to meet up a couple of weeks ago, only for him to cancel as he had made previous plans with some uni friends which he forgot about. We enventually met up on valentines day and it was a really good evening, there was loads of chemistry, he paid me loads of compliments said I was absoultely gorgeous and ticked all the right boxes and even some he didnt know he had, we seemed to connect and he said alot of things that suggested he wanted some sort of long term relationship (including wanting me to join a team he was putting together for a sporting event). We kissed and were a little intimate, and the end of the night he looked right in my eyes and said he would love to take me out the following friday, to which I agreed. After the date, we both exchanged txts and he said he loved the evening. During the week we exchanged a few txts and there was more flirting. When I txted him late thurs night to ask if we were still on, he said definately and asked where I had in mind. When I sent him my reply asking what time he would be free he did not respond. I then txted him on friday afternoon asking if we were still on and should I make alternative plans and still no response. He txts me back about 7ish saying he had just finished work (he has quite a demandind city job) and was really tired, he looked and felt a wreck and could we postpone without me 'shutting him out'. I was quite upset at this point (as it was second friday in a row he had cancelled on me) and did not respond, he then txted me again asking if I was upset, to which I replied that he is very confusing and that I hope he feels better, then he replies and says that was a cold response but it was deserved. I called him and he didnt pick up, I then txted him saying I wasnt being cold just that he could have told me earlier so I could have made other plans and that I really hoped he gets better. To which he doesnt reply. I then notice that he has been checking out my profile on the dating website. I txt him on the sunday (two days ago)asking if he wanted to meet up later to which he didnt reply and I have not heard from him since. I am confused as he seemed really keen, and when we met up and via txts he had made lots of references to really liking me and wanting to see me again and a possible longer term connection. So I keep thinking what could have changed in such a short space of time, has he met someone else, lost interest or maybe I am just reading too much into it? I do like him alot (and I am usually quite laid back and difficult to impress when it comes to guys)and wonder if I should ask him if he is still interested or should I just leave it? ps: sorry about the long post lol I met this guy on a dating website end of January (he initiated contact) and he was really keen. He asked to meet up and when I agreed, he didn’t get back to me, so I asked if he was still interested and he said he was still very keen and suggested a night. I mailed him my number and he contacted me a few days later.

We had a few convo by txt (and there were some flirting on both sides) although he was and still is a sporadic txter and he takes absolute ages to reply and sometimes a day will go by before he replies. We agreed to meet up a couple of weeks ago, only for him to cancel as he had made previous plans with some uni friends which he forgot about.

We enventually met up on valentines day and it was a really good evening, there was loads of chemistry, he paid me loads of compliments said I was absoultely gorgeous and ticked all the right boxes and even some he didnt know he had, we seemed to connect and he said alot of things that suggested he wanted some sort of long term relationship (including wanting me to join a team he was putting together for a sporting event). We kissed and were a little intimate, and the end of the night he looked right in my eyes and said he would love to take me out the following friday, to which I agreed.

After the date, we both exchanged txts and he said he loved the evening. During the week we exchanged a few txts and there was more flirting. When I txted him late thurs night to ask if we were still on, he said definately and asked where I had in mind. When I sent him my reply asking what time he would be free he did not respond. I then txted him on friday afternoon asking if we were still on and should I make alternative plans and still no response. He txts me back about 7ish saying he had just finished work (he has quite a demandind city job) and was really tired, he looked and felt a wreck and could we postpone without me ’shutting him out’. I was quite upset at this point (as it was second friday in a row he had cancelled on me) and did not respond, he then txted me again asking if I was upset, to which I replied that he is very confusing and that I hope he feels better, then he replies and says that was a cold response but it was deserved. I called him and he didnt pick up, I then txted him saying I wasnt being cold just that he could have told me earlier so I could have made other plans and that I really hoped he gets better. To which he doesnt reply.

I then notice that he has been checking out my profile on the dating website. I txt him on the sunday (two days ago)asking if he wanted to meet up later to which he didnt reply and I have not heard from him since.

I am confused as he seemed really keen, and when we met up and via txts he had made lots of references to really liking me and wanting to see me again and a possible longer term connection. So I keep thinking what could have changed in such a short space of time, has he met someone else, lost interest or maybe I am just reading too much into it? I do like him alot (and I am usually quite laid back and difficult to impress when it comes to guys)and wonder if I should ask him if he is still interested or should I just leave it?

ps: sorry about the long post lol

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