I’ve written before about conversation starters for first dates (see What the Heck Do We Talk About?) but it seems to be something that EVERYONE has trouble with. So here are a few more questions to get the conversation rolling on your first date. Or, if you are using an online dating service, use these during your IM or phone conversations.
The trick is to ask probing, open ended questions. Ask questions that can’t be answered with a quick “Yes” or “No.” It’s also important to ask questions that will touch on subjects that are important to you. Only by really asking and actively listening to the responses will you learn enough about the other person to determine if there is real potential in the relationship.
We talk a lot about what men want here at Successful Online Dating. I know as a woman, that’s something I spend a fair amount of time thinking about personally, as well as for this site. We question, we research, and we read articles and books.
Sometimes I think we overlook the other side of the coin. If you are scaring a guy off in the first few dates, you will never get to know each other on a deeper level.
It’s a scientific fact that men are more visually stimulated than women.
However, is it really the physical characteristics that men find attractive – the size of your nose, the bow of your lips, the color of your hair and eyes? Or is it a more intangible quality that makes people attracted to others.
Let’s face it – we have all been out and seen a couple and thought, in one of our rare catty moments, “How did she/he get him or her? Obviously, there is more than what lies on the surface when it comes to attraction.
Sometimes, my dating life seems more desolate than the Mojave Desert. It can feel like I am the last single person on the planet. What causes these droughts in our dating lives? Is it El Niño? Global Warming? Do I need to be more fuel efficient and green in my social life?
If you are going through a “dating dry spell” have you stopped to consider what kind of signals you are giving out?
I’ve written before about conversation starters for first dates (see What the Heck Do We Talk About?) but it seems to be something that EVERYONE has trouble with. So here are a few more questions to get the conversation rolling on your first date. Or, if you are using an online dating service, use these during your IM or phone conversations.
Sometimes, my dating life seems more desolate than the Mojave Desert. It can feel like I am the last single person on the planet. What causes these droughts in our dating lives? Is it El Niño? Global Warming? Do I need to be more fuel efficient and green in my social life?
