Successful Online Dating

I’ve written before about conversation starters for first dates (see What the Heck Do We Talk About?) but it seems to be something that EVERYONE has trouble with. So here are a few more questions to get the conversation rolling on your first date. Or, if you are using an online dating service, use these during your IM or phone conversations.

The trick is to ask probing, open ended questions. Ask questions that can’t be answered with a quick “Yes” or “No.” It’s also important to ask questions that will touch on subjects that are important to you. Only by really asking and actively listening to the responses will you learn enough about the other person to determine if there is real potential in the relationship.  Read more...

Tags: first date, what to talk about, what to talk about on a first date

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The Five Types of Women that Scare Men Off

We talk a lot about what men want here at Successful Online Dating. I know as a woman, that’s something I spend a fair amount of time thinking about personally, as well as for this site. We question, we research, and we read articles and books.

Sometimes I think we overlook the other side of the coin. If you are scaring a guy off in the first few dates, you will never get to know each other on a deeper level.  Read more...

Tags: how to scare off a man, how to scare off men

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Are Looks Really What Men Are Looking For?

It’s a scientific fact that men are more visually stimulated than women.

However, is it really the physical characteristics that men find attractive – the size of your nose, the bow of your lips, the color of your hair and eyes? Or is it a more intangible quality that makes people attracted to others.

Let’s face it – we have all been out and seen a couple and thought, in one of our rare catty moments, “How did she/he get him or her? Obviously, there is more than what lies on the surface when it comes to attraction.  Read more...

Tags: what men want

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Sometimes, my dating life seems more desolate than the Mojave Desert. It can feel like I am the last single person on the planet. What causes these droughts in our dating lives? Is it El Niño? Global Warming? Do I need to be more fuel efficient and green in my social life?

If you are going through a “dating dry spell” have you stopped to consider what kind of signals you are giving out?  Read more...

Tags: dating, how to interest a man, joining online dating site, meeting men, when guys arent interested

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One of the reasons I like online dating is the somewhat more anonymous nature. Rejection is easier – because you never have to see that person again.

Or So You Think!

What happens when you come across a profile of someone you know from OUTSIDE the online dating world?

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• message them and see if you hit if off?
• ignore them and pretend you didn’t see it?
• secretly look at their profile and hope they look at yours?
• delete your profile, blow up your computer and move to Antarctica?

Tags: dating profiles, online dating, online dating sites

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