Successful Online Dating

The Five Types of Women that Scare Men Off

We talk a lot about what men want here at Successful Online Dating. I know as a woman, that’s something I spend a fair amount of time thinking about personally, as well as for this site. We question, we research, and we read articles and books.

Sometimes I think we overlook the other side of the coin. If you are scaring a guy off in the first few dates, you will never get to know each other on a deeper level.

Are Looks Really What Men Are Looking For?

It’s a scientific fact that men are more visually stimulated than women.

However, is it really the physical characteristics that men find attractive – the size of your nose, the bow of your lips, the color of your hair and eyes? Or is it a more intangible quality that makes people attracted to others.

Let’s face it – we have all been out and seen a couple and thought, in one of our rare catty moments, “How did she/he get him or her? Obviously, there is more than what lies on the surface when it comes to attraction.

Sometimes, my dating life seems more desolate than the Mojave Desert. It can feel like I am the last single person on the planet. What causes these droughts in our dating lives? Is it El Niño? Global Warming? Do I need to be more fuel efficient and green in my social life?

If you are going through a “dating dry spell” have you stopped to consider what kind of signals you are giving out?

One of the reasons I like online dating is the somewhat more anonymous nature. Rejection is easier – because you never have to see that person again.

Or So You Think!

What happens when you come across a profile of someone you know from OUTSIDE the online dating world?

Do you

• message them and see if you hit if off?
• ignore them and pretend you didn’t see it?
• secretly look at their profile and hope they look at yours?
• delete your profile, blow up your computer and move to Antarctica?

A Whole New Way to Meet People

The scope of online dating is really so much wider than just sites like E-Harmony, Match and PerfectMatch. On one hand, I really think the fact that EVERYONE uses the Internet, and it is now considered so much more legitimate than it was 10 years ago has really reduced the stigma of online dating. It has also opened up a whole new way to meet new people.

What is a social network?

Here’s a great video that explains how social networks work, and how they can be beneficial:

Major Pitfall of Online Dating

One of the major pitfalls of online dating is that you don’t meet the other person until the high pressure of a first date. I have always had a much easier time when I meet someone through a friend, and we have a couple of “group” events. There is time to see if there is any chemistry, and a chance to explore shared interests. There is also the safety net of knowing people in common.

Wouldn’t it be great if you could combine the comfort of meeting someone through friends with the potential of online dating? It’s possible there is.