Successful Online Dating

OKCupid! Is Worth Checking Out

For those of you who haven't tried it – OKCupid! is really worth a look. First off, it's a FREE dating site. That's right, FREE. No gimmicks, no spam (I have a specific email I used for them, I would know if they sold my address.)

However, even more than the fact that it's free (did I mention that already?) is that the technology behind the search as a least as good as, if not better than expensive dating sites like E-Harmony, Chemistry.com and Match.com.

Mandi and I appreciate comments and emails from readers. We sincerely try to provide help and guidance in the online dating arena, and when someone spends the time to write a well-written email like this that has a strong opinion of a site, we feel it's in your best interests to print it.

We received this email from Stan, and decided to print it in its entirety to warn you of his opinion and experiences with Chemistry.com. I have to admit that I've been having some of the same issues since I joined; in fact, it's been several weeks and I haven't even had email correspondence from anyone on the site.

I joined Chemistry.com through their buy one get three offer:

Three months for the price of one on Chemistry.com! You save more than 50%!

Here's how it's going so far…

An Evenly Sliced Personality

What really sucks about my personality test on Chemistry.com is that there are 4 quadrants, and I am very close to 25% on each of them. Which means they can match me up with absolutely anybody and it's supposed to be a "great match."

I am really disgusted with true.com.

All their affiliate ads are sexually provocative and aimed toward men, and now this comes along…sponsored by true.com.

My personal feeling is this group is such a sell-out. They claim they check for married people and criminals, but ads like this make me think they're out for the lowest common denominator.

My suggestion is to avoid true.com and their sister sites like the plague!

You can't get this directly from their site, but Chemistry.com has the following offer:

Three months for the price of one on Chemistry.com! You save more than 50%!

Since that's a really good deal, I updated my profile yesterday, and they have since come up with 5 matches and 2 other guys that are interested in me. So I'm going to join today and see what happens. Sigh.

How Chemistry.com Works

Chemistry.com is not as wide open as Match.com, although they are affiliated. On Chemistry.com you take a personality test, and they match you with others. No trolling through profiles or having hundreds of creepy guys perusing yours.

One of the reasons I like online dating is the somewhat more anonymous nature. Rejection is easier – because you never have to see that person again.

Or So You Think!

What happens when you come across a profile of someone you know from OUTSIDE the online dating world?

Do you

• message them and see if you hit if off?
• ignore them and pretend you didn’t see it?
• secretly look at their profile and hope they look at yours?
• delete your profile, blow up your computer and move to Antarctica?