Successful Online Dating

Nope. Nu uh. No way.

If its a red flag, guess what, it's a Red. Flag. and you'd better pay attention to it, or you'll pay for it later.

My advice for the day.

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A few months ago I wrote Yahoo! for Yahoo about a guy I had met in their personals. Since then I haven't written an update, even though the relationship seemed to be going swimmingly. I think my gut was telling me that if it seems too good to be true, hellooo Kay, it probably is.

Well, it's over, and I'm hurting pretty bad. I can tell you this for sure: never break up with a guy and have your elderly dog put to sleep in the same week. Either trauma is hard enough to cope with on its own; the double whammy is devastating.

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Serial cheaters are not always easy to spot. They are sincere, seductive, and charming. One woman I know met someone she instantly liked. After two dates, she was electrified. The chemistry was so intense she couldn’t see the cheating signs written on his forehead. Blinded by his charisma, she didn’t recognize that she was just one girl in a long succession of girls. When she discovered he was cheating on her with several other women he thought he was in love with too, she lamented, “All men cheat. I have never met one who didn’t.”

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I’ve written before about conversation starters for first dates (see What the Heck Do We Talk About?) but it seems to be something that EVERYONE has trouble with. So here are a few more questions to get the conversation rolling on your first date. Or, if you are using an online dating service, use these during your IM or phone conversations.

The trick is to ask probing, open ended questions. Ask questions that can’t be answered with a quick “Yes” or “No.” It’s also important to ask questions that will touch on subjects that are important to you. Only by really asking and actively listening to the responses will you learn enough about the other person to determine if there is real potential in the relationship.

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Earning Your Trust

Trust is a binding force in relationships. One of the rules of bullshit detection is careful assignment of your trust. This can save you a broken heart and a lot of pain.

NEVER AGREE TO MORE THAN YOUR TRUST ALLOWS!

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The following post was guest blogged by Bill G. of Web Personals Online – an online dating and personals site that provides advice about using online personals effectively and successfully.

Is He Really Interested?

Women who use online personals have a number of hurdles to overcome to determine whether the responses they are receiving are from genuinely interested parties or from individuals who may not be as interested as they are in pursuing a relationship.

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