Successful Online Dating

Serial cheaters are not always easy to spot. They are sincere, seductive, and charming. One woman I know met someone she instantly liked. After two dates, she was electrified. The chemistry was so intense she couldn’t see the cheating signs written on his forehead. Blinded by his charisma, she didn’t recognize that she was just one girl in a long succession of girls. When she discovered he was cheating on her with several other women he thought he was in love with too, she lamented, “All men cheat. I have never met one who didn’t.”

Earning Your Trust

Trust is a binding force in relationships. One of the rules of bullshit detection is careful assignment of your trust. This can save you a broken heart and a lot of pain.

NEVER AGREE TO MORE THAN YOUR TRUST ALLOWS!

The following post was guest blogged by Bill G. of Web Personals Online – an online dating and personals site that provides advice about using online personals effectively and successfully.

Is He Really Interested?

Women who use online personals have a number of hurdles to overcome to determine whether the responses they are receiving are from genuinely interested parties or from individuals who may not be as interested as they are in pursuing a relationship.

As if dating isn’t stressful enough, we have even more to worry about then our hearts getting stolen. Have you checked your bank balance recently? As technology grows by leaps and bounds, so do the various ways con-artists seek to separate us from our money.

It’s a traditional “Sweetheart Swindle” or “Lost Love Scam” where someone gains your confidence and then asks for help with a financial matter, often involving cashing checks or money orders and wiring them the cash.

An amusing article about red flags from a woman's viewpoint, then a man's, made me realize that most red flags are common to both genders.

So without further ado, beyond the givens, such as personal hygiene, here's a gender-neutral random list of red flags to watch for:

A person who:

• doesn't call when they say they will
• is very critical
• says negative things about their former spouse
• after a third or fourth date, is online chatting with other possibilities by the time you get home
• writes, expresses interest, and then disappears off the face of the earth

Before you ever agree to meet a man from a dating site, you need to check for glaring red flags based his profile, emails and phone calls.

Watch for the big fat LIES.

Lots of people tell little white lies; they round up on their height, the job sounds a little better than it actually is, and I always assume the income is somewhat less than they claim (if it's not, that's a bonus). Some people shave 5 years off their ages - even that doesn't bother me much - I did that for awhile, until I decided I wanted to be perfectly honest and not start a potentially important relationship with a lie.