Successful Online Dating

It's really easy to not only turn a blind eye to red flags when we're dating someone, but then also not mention them to our friends, who would be objective and point out some home truths to us.

How many times has Mandi said to me, "You didn't tell me THAT!"

That Little Voice in Our Heads

Even so, we usually have this niggling little voice in our heads that pops up at odd moments to point out those troublesome signs we don't want to acknowledge. Eventually, we reach a point in a relationship where we know things aren't right, we're getting upset and worried, but think we don't know why. In reality, our subconscious knows perfectly well and is screaming to be listened to.

I discovered a really good article on able2know that's well worth the read: Serial Cheaters - Narcissists. Here is some of what I gleaned from the article, but I recommend reading the entire article - as one commenter said, "Knowledge is Power."

• Narcissists are self-absorbed and tend to be highly charming.
• They have a constant need for admiration.
• They view all events in terms of how the events impact them and them alone.
• They are master manipulators and feel an “emotional high” with each new conquest.
• Their behavior is often impulsive which can appear exciting.

Do you know how men think? Do you know how to catch the interest of a man?

Check out these tips from Steve Santagati, author of The Manual: A True Bad Boy Explains How Men Think, Date, and Mate

Looks Can Kill

Women don't want to hear this, but looks are important to guys - whether you like it or not guys are visual. This sounds trite, but when you leave the house to run errands, put on a cute t-shirt and a nice pair of jeans. Run a comb through your hair and add some lip gloss. You don't have to get all done-up, just better than thrown together.

Serial cheaters are not always easy to spot. They are sincere, seductive, and charming. One woman I know met someone she instantly liked. After two dates, she was electrified. The chemistry was so intense she couldn’t see the cheating signs written on his forehead. Blinded by his charisma, she didn’t recognize that she was just one girl in a long succession of girls. When she discovered he was cheating on her with several other women he thought he was in love with too, she lamented, “All men cheat. I have never met one who didn’t.”

Are Looks Really What Men Are Looking For?

It’s a scientific fact that men are more visually stimulated than women.

However, is it really the physical characteristics that men find attractive – the size of your nose, the bow of your lips, the color of your hair and eyes? Or is it a more intangible quality that makes people attracted to others.

Let’s face it – we have all been out and seen a couple and thought, in one of our rare catty moments, “How did she/he get him or her? Obviously, there is more than what lies on the surface when it comes to attraction.

Sometimes, my dating life seems more desolate than the Mojave Desert. It can feel like I am the last single person on the planet. What causes these droughts in our dating lives? Is it El Niño? Global Warming? Do I need to be more fuel efficient and green in my social life?

If you are going through a “dating dry spell” have you stopped to consider what kind of signals you are giving out?