Comments on: Rejection Letter: Let Down or Put Down?

By: Matt from free dating sites

Matt from free dating sites — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 01:52:38 +0000

Letting someone down online is the easy option for the person doing the dumping. Receiving bad news via email or chat can come across differently as opposed to doing it face to face. .-= Matt from free dating sites´s last blog ..babygurli123abc =-.

By: Kay

Kay — Mon, 27 Jul 2009 02:50:59 +0000

Bea – It’s good you don’t make it personal. You are right, it doesn’t feel good, but does give closure.

By: Bea

Bea — Sun, 26 Jul 2009 17:59:11 +0000

I always send a response, and have also had a lot of guys say thank you just for the rejection, because they think its better than no response at all. Short and sweet, “Thanks for the note, but I’m not interested. Good luck to you.” seems a little blunt, but to the point. If I say the reason why, I’ll try to make it something that’s not personal about them, but about my choices. Why tell someone what I think is wrong with them, when someone else might be looking for that very feature? I would rather say “I prefer a non-smoker”, than “no thanks, you’re a smoker”. I received my share of rejections, too, and it never feels good, but I’d rather know!

By: Kay

Kay — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 02:33:01 +0000

Kaylee, I think it’s nice that you send those emails. My husband used to always respond because he felt it was the right thing to do. I always hated getting them, though!

By: Kaylee

Kaylee — Tue, 14 Jul 2009 18:18:10 +0000

I’ve sent rejections when I wasn’t interested in someone who has contacted me. This is because I’ve read several complaints from guys in online dating forums saying that they’re tired of getting no response whatsoever. They’d prefer a short rejection note explaining why they’re being turned down so they know what to improve. When I send rejections, I sent them with information about what’s wrong with their profile. For example, I sent two rejections this week for the same reason–the guys smoked, and I didn’t want to date a smoker. The first one got a little offended and said “Well you must have some bad habits too I know I’m not the only one” and the second one took it very well. Because the second one took it well, I also sent him some suggestions that I thought might help him quit.